Mar 16 2010

The trouble with internet trolls and stalkers


I planned to write a post about how to handle online trolls and stalkers, since I am lucky enough to have what I classify as a pseudo stalker of my own. The malicious and unproductive behavior of these pests is somewhat fascinating, in a sadistic sort of way, and certainly good fodder for an entertaining psychoanalysis. But everything I just said, and anything more, is exactly what a troll or stalker wants to hear.

Plus, once I started to research the subject, I discovered that there’s a ton of helpful information, web sites, posts and comments already available. So, anything I would have to say wouldn’t exactly be new (unless I made some stuff up, which would have been fun but misleading). Anyway, I abandoned the idea…but pulled together some of the resources I discovered, should you ever have trouble with trolls and stalkers.

The most important thing to remember when considering how to deal with a troll or stalker is that they enjoy creating conflict and doing harm to others. And, they want to get a reaction out of you. From How to Deal with Trolls:  “When you fight with them, they win. When you try to reason with them, they win. When you give them attention, they get exactly what they want.” I gave my slanderous friend the pleasure of all three of these things because I felt I had to defend my integrity. I was caught off guard. I didn’t know. Now I do.

The best way to deal with trolls or stalkers is to ignore them. When you ignore them, they don’t get the satisfaction of creating an escalated conflict. This is hard to do but be assured that most everyone else online will realize this person is a troll and will dismiss their comments.

Here are a few of the sources I found that might be helpful. Good luck!

Wikipedia: Trolls (Internet)

How to Deal with Trolls on Your Professional Blog

Beware of Online Stalkers

Internet Stalkers: Survive, expose and deal with the slime of the web (This one is from which generally is a great site to explore.)